Friday 23 November 2012

Prerogative of Men - Diary Entry of a girl


I have a life as well,
I've dreams on which I dwell.
Even I wish to be in euphoric mood,
To go and play sometimes away from neighborhood.
But why do I've constraints?
I want to shout,
To roam about.
To breathe free,
Standing beneath a real tree.
But why am I captivated?

Various ephemeral things splendid and sublime,
I've to admire them in a specific time.
I want to be oblivious of time and people, who surround,
I may be perky and loud for people all around.
But why do you notice?

It may be crazy to go to a deserted place,
But I want to go there without a chaperon's face.
I can't live on my own with this security guard,
Without you, Is my survival really hard?
Why am I assaulted always?

Its my life unless I'm harming you,
But you interfere and my freedom is morning dew.
A woman is feeble, docile, pretty, timid and generous,
And an independent, strong one is a sorceress.
Is it really a definition or you've made for your convenience?

You may call me a bloody feminist,
But your society is a sick male chauvinist.
To you I maybe a recalcitrant beast,
But, slavery doesn't flourish here.
If you think you rule,
I won't protest.
After all I'm a timid girl,
Quietly I'll leave so that alone you rule here forever.
But, can you make a world without me?


I'm a girl in this male dominant society. I even have no problem if you rule, but be a kind, generous, unbiased ruler at least.
You've just limited my role. If I'm so unimportant, should I leave? Can you imagine a world without me?
From villages to modern areas, always I am judged. My every action speaks about me. Why is it so?
If I don't talk to people, I've ego problem or I'm too shy. And if I do, I'm too outgoing, easy nut to crack. If I've a lot of friends, if I talk a lot ignoring the gender of my listener's, then I've no ethics. If I want to feel the wind at night, I'm a witch.
I feel captivated even in my own house.
If a man decides to remain bachelor forever, he is regarded as a saint. But, a woman doing same is evil.
It's not the story of a backward village, it's almost everywhere. A woman is looked down upon. Even after so many measures, she doesn't enjoy an equal status. Thinking needs to be changed.
It's not easy to pass off an area without having a few dirty eyes ogling me, without a few immoral lips abusing or teasing me.
It's not about backward places only, it's almost everywhere. Why are dark and deserted places still unsafe? I ask you, is it right denigrating on basis of gender?
I enjoy being a girl. At times, I love the attention. Sometimes, being an apple of discord too. But, what role do you actually want me to play? Just a beautiful, quiet, docile girl, only these qualities do you want a real girl should have? I envy my brother for having so much freedom, for having no concerns about his security. He can easily travel long distances alone even in a sleeper class and my parents have to think twice before sending me alone even via air.
He'll not be judged for anything he does. Even, if a guy smokes or drinks it's not a big deal. But if I even try a non-alcoholic Hookah, my colleagues will talk ill of me behind my back.
It’s sad but true that majority of men including the literate and civilized ones too are the same.
And then there are some merciless, brute devils who don’t qualify to be called human are disguised as men who commit such heinous crimes that it makes my blood run cold even while thinking. Thinking of punishing these cold-blooded criminals such as rapists with even the most sadistic approach doesn't satisfy me.
Even the Government doesn't do anything; just fudges the issue. There’s no redemption for such criminals, capital punishment is too less for them.
Had it been in my control, I simply wouldn't have taken birth here. But now that I've taken birth and since suicide is a crime, I've to bear my life in fear every day.
I've become paranoid, standing at the brink of life and death in this world here, the latter appeals me more. At least I’m free that way.
I know my words in desperation won’t bring any change as real culprits will not read this for sure. But it is the best I can do to ameliorate the situation & express my rage over the issue.
- A girl pleading for her freedom

12 comments:

  1. Flawless, touching. Heart melting poem!

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  2. True, every word of it !!! The thoughts are very nicely shaped.
    The poem is heart-touching !! No one has the right to rule anyone, even if its unbiased.
    Really hope this article changes people perception.Don't Agree with your last line - I think you can do a lot more !! :)

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    1. Thankyou for reading :)
      i'm trying my best and we all can do a lot to improve the situation. :)

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    2. Yes we can and we must !! :)

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  3. Exactly..!! So true n so well written.. Hope this makes a change!!
    After all a thousand droplets fill up an urn..:)

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    1. Yes, we can see how aware people are becoming. Now just the last push is needed. "The night is the darkest before the dawn. And the dawn is coming." Thank you for reading! :)

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  4. "The greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom." - OSHO. Since civilized men are bought into question, need for a comment arises. Although the post is very well written and some lines are quite touching, yet I find rest of the part as pitiful and pathetic. Women are feeble and timid? Men should "rule" generously? Have we so soon forgotten the examples laid down by greats like Rani Laxmibai? How can society be reformed if instead of fighting, women just accept for a fact that they are born lesser? Why wouldn't men dominate if women just present to them their freedom on a silver platter? Fight for what is rightfully yours. Choose a career in bureaucracy to provide a platform for implementing your ideas. I see, on a daily basis, many female body builders who could beat the hell out of any normal guy. These may not be the solution perhaps but it is at-least a beginning. I don't think society has much improved since the time this blog was written. Crime rates are as high as ever. Even if situation improves, psychopaths will not cease to exist. Women need to get out of their comfort zone and make an effort for their own personal security. Having a male dominant society is not just a disgrace, it impounds GDP of our nation drastically as well. I think better quote than waiting for dawn would be "Desperate times require desperate measures". In words of Benjamin Franklin, “Those who surrender freedom for security will not have, nor do they deserve, either one”

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    1. Yes, I agree that it's the time to fight back. I think I didn't convey my ideas very well here. When I wrote timid or docile, I didn't mean that it's true, I just meant that it is what is believed. And it's sad. It's worse when I see women who take pride in being weak, delicate princesses. But, at the same time there are so many women who fight back, who struggle daily, who are so brave that their sufferings sends chills down my spine.
      But, to suffer, to fight, to get hurt and stand up again, to protect ourselves, to be paranoid, to be cautious, to stay alive and stay safe is what we have to do. We've to fight for our freedom and I know that.
      I just wrote it when I was frustrated reading the same kind of news everywhere and I'm still nauseated by the thinking these psychopaths have.
      No body I mean, neither the cute, naive young female babies nor the wise old ladies are safe. Whether it's an attack on the nation or in a house, women are the victim first. Why?
      Just because I couldn't find an answer to these unfathomable questions I wrote it because right now I'm not a savior, not a body builder. I'm strong and I'll always preach other women to be so.
      I just hope that maybe someday things will change.
      Do you think we need some bloodshed? How to go about it? Like India's freedom movement, should we start a women's freedom movement?
      Well this is such a complex thing I'm incapable of limiting in a few words or a few posts. I'm making my tiny efforts to make things just and impartial, to bring an equitable treatment for all. Join me :-)

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    2. Just like you, my comment tends to criticize mass public opinion in general. I don't blame any one person specifically for this kind of thinking. All apologies in case it was felt so.

      No, I don't think any bloodshed or a movement of such sorts is required right now. Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud. Women security and Women equality are two separate issues. Though we might blame govt. for former, which I see 90% people around me doing, we only have ourselves and our society to blame for latter.I think our nation needs more examples like those of PT Usha or Kalpana Chawla, in each and every field, to consider women equal to men in all respects. As for me personally, I'd rather try to become a bureaucrat than blaming corrupt officials, gain some power and then fight to change things within the system. Easier said than done, but I guess all credit's for trying.

      Yes, you are right, our nation suffers from so many social and political problems that it is impossible to elaborate solutions in a few words.

      Don't worry, even though we are not together and might never be so, we shall always be united, merely by our thoughts, against such wicked evils in our society :-)

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    3. I totally appreciate your effort and I wish you good luck in your endeavor. The world really needs intelligent bureaucrats whom they can follow.
      Thanks for reading :-)

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  5. Thanks. You are welcome. And thanks for calling me intelligent too :-)

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